My best friend came across a quote from Larry Flynt today that struck me as funny. He said..."Murder is illegal, writing about it is not. Sex is not illegal, but writing about it is. Why?" Not looking at what he does, just at what he said, I have to say that it is funny. And sadly kind of true even today.
I'm often stopped by people who know that I write just not what. They are so excited to talk to me, ask questions about how I got started and where they can find a book. Some are not so happy when they realize that I write erotica. I've even been told more than once, "So you write porn?" Usually with a sneer and a condescending look. I have to say that I find that amusing as well.
I don't write porn. It is not what our industry is about. There are no pictures here. It is a story of words, very descriptive words that hopefully paint a picture for the reader. We write about sex with no apologies for it. And we demand that our sex be the very best. No shades of grey here. No missionary with the lights off. Here it is as bad as you fanticize it to be, as rough as you want it, and as stimulating as you can handle.
It saddens me that even today we are labled and judged not by the person we are, but often by working in an industry that most seem afraid of. Erotica is not a bad thing. Sex is not bad. Sex is a natural part of who we are. And writing about it in detail does not make me any less or more than anyone else. I am a mom, a damn good one. I am a friend, a confident, and when I chose, a lover. I have fears and uncertainties...just not in the bedroom. I've loved. I've laughed. And yeah, I've shed my fair share of tears.
But bottom line is that I am a single mom who writes. This is the path that I have chosen to take to help me take care of my families financial needs. I'm not the best...yet...lol But I'm not the worst either. I'm just a woman. I cannot be defined by what I write anymore than Stephen King can. Writing sex doesn't make me something cheap or dirty. Just as writing murder doesn't make you a killer.
Just my take on a quote that I found interesting.
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